I've been thinking a lot about congruency lately. The dictionary defines congruence as 'agreement or harmony'. When your decisions are in line with your values, you're living a congruent life.
Much of the discontent in our lives is caused by making decisions that are not in line with our values. Many people don’t know what their values are, because they haven’t taken the time to think about it. Have a look at this link: Questionnaire. It’s called the Demartini Value Determination Process, a questionnaire by Dr. John Demartini that will help you to determine what your values are. It’s long, but I consider it a valuable piece of the puzzle if you’re interested in getting to know yourself better.
Once you’ve determined what your values are, it’s easier to notice when you’re making decisions that are not in alignment with those values. It just feels wrong, kind of like a clothing tag that keeps scratching your neck. Going against your values won’t sit well with you and the more you practice making decisions that align with your core beliefs, the more at peace you will be with those decisions. Sometimes the right decisions are the difficult ones. It’s a whole lot easier to make those decisions when you know that you’re making them from a place of integrity, rather than not.
I don’t need to tell you that integrity is in short supply nowadays. Precisely because of this, it’s easy to stand out as someone of worth when your life reflects the integrity and character that comes from making decisions aligned with your values. I’m not saying it’s easy to do this. In fact, it’s a process, but it’s worth it. It’s my aim to try to make decisions based on my values, not out of fear or emotion. Are you with me?
Until next time,
Marinda